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Meeting Santa and Remembering How Far We've Come.

AutismMarylin2 Comments

Today was the first time Max was able to handle meeting Santa Claus and sit nicely for a photo! 

The first time in 8 years. EIGHT years! 

Mr Claus was wonderful with Max and fully aware of how to speak to him in a way he would understand, and Max? He was beside himself with excitement!

It's not all sunshine and smiles though...

It took one and a half hours of a meltdown before Max calmed after getting home from our day out.

By day out I mean, we went to KFC for his popcorn chicken (Yay something he'll eat! Sometimes...), the boys got their hair cut,  a replacement 2DS was purchased from Game (love their preowned stuff!) and of course, we met Santa. For some that's not much, but for Max, it's a LOT to take in. 

This is why we don't do even little trips out too often, as although Max can now manage *really* well while we're out (in general!), as soon as we get back home, all the feelings are released like a tidal wave.

Screaming, shouting, crying, shrieking, lashing out and self-harm are all things he goes through every time he comes home, even from school (though we have worked on this and this rarely happens for more than 5-10 minutes once we're in the door now, thank goodness!). 

This is autism, and this is what we live with every day. He may seem to be coping amazingly well when out, and when at school, but the sacrifices made to ensure Max is calm and happy are so much more than you know.

I am so beyond proud of this little guy, of his big brother for being such an amazing support to Max, and to me, and I am also proud of myself for doing, quite frankly, a bloody good job raising these kids alone!

Most of all, I am thankful for the support of family, friends, and support workers, and the early intervention we've been lucky enough to receive since Max was just turned 2.

I'm thankful to see the progress of my little guy throughout the years. 

I'm thankful to have Zack, such a thoughtful, fun, kind and supportive child, wise beyond his years (and more than a little crazy too!).

They've been the making of me, as much as I have of them... and this? This is just the beginning.

 

My Love/Hate Relationship with Lists

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Lists... ahh lists, you'd think that for someone who's such a planner obsessive, I'd love them, right? 

And sometimes I do. When I have a lot of things I need to remember, lists are awesome! And of course there's all the pretty paper and writing utensils to use while making them! *drools a little*

Then again, there's the pressure that I put on myself to get so much done when I make a to-do list, and that just makes me feel like crap. 

I mean, you write a list at the start of the day of everything you want to accomplish. Maybe it's not even that big a list, but then life gets in the way, and before you know it, the whole day is over and oh look, not one thing has been checked off, or maybe one or two things, but that list is still full of things that you didn't get around to doing.

Talk about a way to make you feel like you've done nothing. No thank you!

So my favourite list is the have-done list: one that I write in everything I've done during the day (as I do them!), instead of the things I want to do. 

See, when I look back at that list, I realise that even if I haven't done what I'd hoped, I've still done a fair amount, and that makes me feel good!

Feeling good is where it's at, and if that means not writing to-do lists, but have-done lists, then that's what I'm gonna do! 

What about you? What's your take on lists?

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Have a wonderful day! ❤

Family

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This is the perfect example of our little family... Max trying to be all sweet and adorable for a selfie (yes, he poses well for the camera!), and then oh, look there! It's Zack making a silly face in the background! 

Add in Kenzi the yorkie who has a compulsion to lick everything - even air, and Milo the black cat who seems to have made a pass time of grooming himself to the point he's got a balding butt... yeah, I think our family is pretty damn special. ;)