No, seriously… SERIOUSLY???

by Marylin on January 7, 2010

So the other day I went to see my parents as my mum hasn’t been feeling well at all. Wanted to cheer her up a bit. So over I went, with sausage rolls and cakes from the bakery. I dropped off Zack at nursery and Deano was looking after a (sleeping) Max, so we got some chill out time.

My blog was brought up (probably something to do with pictures on it) and my mum comes out with… “could you not use the f word in your blog please? Couldn’t you just do it like F*** or something instead? I don’t like it”.



I was like what? the? hell??

My dad in the kitchen was saying it was a “fuckin disgrace, there’s no need for it”… and actually being serious, not realising he was swearing as he said it.

For once in my life I stood up to them about something.

It’s *my* blog, to write about how I feel about things, so I will write how I please on it.

I said that if they don’t like it then, sorry, but don’t read it.

Mum swiftly changed the subject as she could tell that Dad and I could have got into a roaring argument about it.


Who the hell tries to tell their 25 year old daughter who has two children and (almost) a divorce under her belt not to fucking swear???

What! The! FUCK!

(yes I said fuck… fuck fuck fuckity FUCK FUCK).

I already felt that I couldn’t write what I wanted on my old blog when I split from Twatface cause his whole family know the address for it.

Now I feel like I really can’t be myself without offending someone.

So that’s it.

A Little Space for Me will become a place with random updates on the boys and pics of them and that’s it.

Everything else? That’ll be here.

Fuck it.

I’m sick of being fucking censored.

No more.

I’ll fucking well swear as much as I fucking want. So there.


{ 27 comments… read them below or add one }

Nat January 7, 2010 at 10:58 am

All I can say is fucking well said! It’s your blog, expletive your heart out.



Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 11:28 am

Cheers Nat, my jaw actually dropped when she said it. I’m not a bloody child anymore! Jeez!


MrsW January 7, 2010 at 11:49 am

Ha-fucking-ha sorry – it doesn’t get any better. I’m 42 and not only am I not allowed to swear but my mum has actually said to me on numerous occasions “you are NOT getting a dog”.


Immediately followed by “get a dog if you want” like she’s giving me permission for something I don’t NEED her permission for

It’s no wonder I can barely make a decision for myself. Laughing aside it seriously fucks you up constantly having anything you choose to say/do/think scrutinised, criticised and ridiculed. Sometimes I stand in the kitchen at night and can barely answer when my kids ask me what’s for tea.
.-= MrsW´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>On a lighter note… =-.


urbanvox January 7, 2010 at 11:55 am

and you know what??? I might do just the same!!!

.-= urbanvox´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>The first of the year =-.


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 12:04 pm

Yep, I get that one too – like it’s down to them whether I do or don’t do something (I do want a puppy, but i know i cant have one as they cost so much, but i want one anyway…).

Honestly, I love my parents to bits but they can be sooooo demeaning with their telling me what i can and can’t do all the time!


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 12:04 pm

LOL go for it mate! ;)


sonvar January 7, 2010 at 1:42 pm

As a wise person once told me “Fuck the fucking fuckers”

No I can understand. I’m not even sure I know what post they might be referencing nor should it be an issue. Curse all you want as long as it makes sense to you or you feel it’s appropriate.


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 2:19 pm

I think it must’ve been in the comments to be honest, cause I don’t actually swear very often over there with it being me talking about the kids n all! lol


Jeanette January 7, 2010 at 2:55 pm

I hear you! I’m very tempted to start another blog actually… one that my colleagues and family don’t know about
.-= Jeanette´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>5/365 – I like to ride my bike =-.


jen January 7, 2010 at 3:09 pm

HAHAHA! Go for it!
.-= jen´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>do over =-.


Julie / Sephrenia January 7, 2010 at 3:41 pm

Say what the FUCK you like! My Mum doesn’t like me using the word crap even :/ I think it’s a generation thing. It’s also a “Mum” thing. I have a feeling I’ll be shocked the first time I see my son swear in print. He’s 15 now – its getting harder all the time. Deep down we’re all someone’s baby. :) Even my Mum is – her Mum is 90, she’s 66 and still gets it :S
.-= Julie / Sephrenia´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>Sooooooo much more than just a game =-.


Barbara January 7, 2010 at 6:51 pm

Well, this has certainly bought out the fruitier language from your commenters!! Not wishing to miss the party, it’s your blog, say whatever the fuck you like. You’re a big girl now and it’s up to you to live your life as you see fit. That includes the language you choose to use.
.-= Barbara´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>New Bird on the Block =-.


Kim (frogpondsrock) January 7, 2010 at 8:25 pm

The only problems I had when Mum was reading my blog was knowing that if I wrote about her cancer I would make her cry. I also couldn’t write about how devastated her cancer made me feel because then it made Mum feel really guilty that she was causing Vonnie and I so much pain.

I understand how you feel about not being able to write what you want on your own blog though. Family that I don’t like read my blog and I really need to “write out” the stress that they are causing me but it isn’t worth the fall out. and I really cant be bothered with them. I think this is one of the reasons that Vonnie is poking the idiots over at Poopy peeps because no matter what those trolls do it cant hurt her like my brother did.

The language is a generational thing. I wouldn’t say fuck in front of my grand mother. and at the end of the day why bother antagonising people over a silly fucking swear word any way.

But for fucks sake keep this blog quiet sweety or you will have to start again lol xox


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 8:39 pm

Ahhh so true! lol :)

Today they also tried to tell me that I wasn’t allowed to get kittens. No shit! >_<


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 8:39 pm

Sooo true! ;)


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 8:40 pm

Yep, I hear ya – that’s why I started this place to begin with! It’s for online buddies only, and the few ‘real life’ friends I know will just take it as it is, like they take me as I am. :)


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 8:41 pm

lol, I intend to! ;)


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 8:43 pm

Oh don’t you worry – not a chance i’ll be telling any one about this place! LOL :)


Veronica January 7, 2010 at 9:18 pm

I was gobsmacked last night when you told me and I still am this morning. It’s your blog, not anyone elses. Thank God for Softthistle!
.-= Veronica´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>Growing up =-.


Softthistle January 7, 2010 at 9:21 pm

LOL tell me about it! Its just as well I set this place up! hehe :)

Fuck em! ;)


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Kristin January 11, 2010 at 4:31 am

Ooh, ooh, can I play? Some ideas for you to try:

Fuckwit, fucktard, fucknut and my personal fav, asshat.
.-= Kristin´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>Nine Lives =-.


Softthistle January 11, 2010 at 10:16 am

All good choices! :)


ck January 12, 2010 at 1:41 am

Can you imagine how weird it will feel when our kids grow up and we find ourselves offended at their language? I hear that’s one of the first signs of getting old.
.-= ck´s last blog ..“ rel=”nofollow”>once upon a box =-.


Softthistle January 12, 2010 at 2:17 am

LOL I have a feeling i will be swearing along with them ;)


Phil January 14, 2010 at 4:54 pm

You’re damn right you better be able to say w/e the hell you want on your blog!



Softthistle January 14, 2010 at 9:20 pm

*nods furiously* exactly! ;)


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